The Love Game- Level 5
Test How You Relate
The way we relate to others reflects how we communicate to them.
Perception is projection!
The message we are sending will come back to us (either we sent it consciously or unconsciously). People will respond to us according to the signals we sent, and filtered by the other person's ways of perceiving.
If we fancy someone or we want him or her to pay attention to us, we might think we will behave differently to when we are looking for a job.
In both situations, we do the same. We are trying to make an impact on that person, and give the best performance, to get from the situation or the person what we want.
In order to get what you want, you need to give the other person what he or she wants first!
Then you need always to check the quality of what you are receiving...because the more you give the more you shall receive!
Keep your heart open and focus on how things developed. Actions are more powerful than words. We cannot expect others to change to accommodate our needs. The only person you can change is yourself. This sounds easy for some and quite difficult to accept for most people. Why? Because the responsibility is again in our hands and not in someone elses.
If we blame others for what happens to us, then we are relating from the victim (which is the other side of the perpetrator)!
That is the most dangerous role we can perform in our lives when we want to build any relationship. Do not give your power away, no matter what!
If you want to know more about the way you are relating...get in touch. A session might really help you change things to make you relate differently and enjoy the relationship you are dreaming of.